I want to help you put
porn and sexual addiction in your past.
“My wife was ready to leave me. I had failed again and again. It was do or die for me and one year later, here I am. Married. Happy. And free! Thank you Blaine!”
— Coaching client, Dallas, TX
The road to lasting freedom is waiting for you.
Experience.
You’ll be coached by a man who walked free from a 23 year sexual addiction.
Proven.
The Katharos® model has empowered hundreds of men to secure freedom.
Technique.
Blaine does not lecture you, he coaches through process, practices and prayer.
Brotherhood.
A dynamic semester of online group work that cements transformation.
The Three Big Lies of Recovery Culture
Did you know national research by America’s Premiere Sexual Addiction Therapist reveals just 20% of all men who spent thousands of dollars attending Addiction Recovery Centers actually found freedom?
Blaine believes there are three lies men are being told in recovery from porn and sexual addiction are like a ball and chain in their attempt to experience real freedom.
Sadly, most Pastors and Spiritual leaders have embraced these futile efforts to fight the epidemic of porn in the Church.
IDENTITY SHAMING
Lie number one is “You are a porn or sex addict.” Or “You just need to own who you are.”
This lie has held God’s men in bondage for a lifetime!
As long as men identify with their sinful behavior, believing this is who they really are, they continually return to their destructive strongholds.
BEHAVIOR MODIFICATION
Lie number two is “You can change your destructive behavior if you just try harder.”
This is a lie from the very pit of hell. Jesus didn’t come to make bad people — good. He came to make dead people alive. If men do not understand the power of resurrection of the heart, they will simply try until they die.
DEFENSIVE POSTURING
Lie number three is “You need to set up a stronger defense in your life.”
This lie tells guys that if they will just put a filter on their technology, get an accountability partner and stop looking a women, their lust will be held at bay.
We will never be able to manufacture enough protective measures in a culture inundated with sexual temptation. Men will never win this battle by retreating into a well-guarded bunker — but rather knowing how to be fully armed to conquer this enemy once and for all.
Blaine’s four-fold coaching technique.
Blaine’s Katharos® coaching model begins with a redirecting of the heart. Lasting human change is impossible to achieve without heart transformation. Heart change is a practical as it is spiritual.
From there, we move into the rewiring of the mind. Whether you realize it or not, porn and sexual lust actually creates deeply entrenched neuropathways. Blaine will teach you how to master your thought patterns and reorder these pathways.
The model is completed with a complete rebuilding of behavioral and spiritual practices. Cultivating healthy and dynamic routines will result in reflexive living and these life reflexes produce resurrection.
This is literally a “circle of freedom.” One leads to the other and each are critical to real and lasting freedom.
Let’s go to work together.
Here’s what guys don’t get. Porn’s not your real problem.
Our real problem is a poverty of the soul. We have this gnawing feeling beneath our bravado that we will never be good enough.
When we understand how Jesus heals the broken spaces in our life, and then access the tools for lasting transformation, everything changes.
So why hire me?
Because I know what I’m doing. I’ve been where you are. I dug deep and unearthed the secrets to what I call de-facto freedom. To put it bluntly my friend… I did the work. You can too.
Let’s do this.
Introducing The Intensive
Personal Assessment Session
Three days of Private Coaching
Accommodations provided
Meals and conversation together
Stay at The Abby Retreat Center in Tulsa, Ok.
Marriage and Relationship Work
24/7 access to Blaine
Personal Freedom Plan Development
Eight-Week Retention Program
Personal outtake coaching session with Blaine
Full-year of The Collective Online Brotherhood Group
The Katharos Training Workbook
Eight Declaration Cards
Handcrafted Cross of Christ
Lifetime Coaching Email program
The Intensive is Three Days of Private Residential Coaching
The Intensive is highly recommended for any man who has struggled with porn and sexual compulsion. The Intensive is a residential three-day program hosted at The Abby Retreat Center in Tulsa, Oklahoma.
$2999.00
Day One.
Core Assessment & Diagnosis
Understanding Authentic Change
Death Therapy
Trauma Origins Workroom
The Redirected Heart
The Imagination Workroom
Day Two.
Shalom & Sabbath
Boundaries & Borders
Triggers & Tools Workroom
Rewiring Neural Pathways
Love & Marriage Workroom
Day Three.
The Happiness Quotient
Gardening Resurrection
Turning Routine to Reflex
My Freedom Plan Workroom
Meeting Jesus in the Room
Prayer & Prophetic Session
Eight Week Retention Course
Blaine has put together a powerful eight week follow-through program for each client upon returning home. Clients are provided a weekly video training program along with a Workbook to continue growth and traction. This program includes daily study, prayers and practices.
Week One / Death
The gateway to resurrection is knowing what needs to die in us. We will address the destructive devices we don’t even know are diminishing our capacity for real freedom.
Week Five / Healing
We often have trauma and rejection we are unaware of that sabotages our freedom. When our hidden pain is healed, the need to medicate with porn diminishes.
Week Two / Boundaries
If our boundaries are not unreasonable, our work will be unsuccessful. We will work through the guardrails we must have in place, if we a serious about walking the Jesus path.
Week Six / Triggers
While we can’t avoid external and internal triggers, we can empty the chamber of its bullets. We will put a strategy in place to combat the issues that trigger you most.
Week Three / Desires
We will never master our thoughts until the heart is re-treasured. We will discover and put into practice the secret of directing our desires in a new and healthy way.
Week Seven / Relationships
Love, friendship and community ar the greatest curative force for addiction in our lives. We will work through marriage issues, brotherhood and how we engage in our faith with others.
Week Four / Rewire
The truth cannot set us free until we confront the lies that hold us hostage. We will walk through the process of rewiring our neural pathways, creating wholesome thought patterns.
Week Eight / Resurrection
My goal is more than to just help you quit porn; it’s about reimagining a resurrected life. We will work through the process of unearthing a vibrant new purpose for life on this planet.
Accomodations and Coaching at The Abby Retreat Center
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A Serene Urban Christian Retreat
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Comfortable Coaching Environments
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Library and Reading Room
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Outdoor Reflective Spaces
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Personal Kitchen area
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Private Bedroom
The Intensive Coaching Application
Because of his busy schedule and the volume of requests, Blaine reviews each coaching request before committing. Upon acceptance, our office will get you coaching materials, appointment times and payment link. Thank you!
FAQ’S
Why is Blaine’s coaching so successful?
Blaine will be quick to credit the results he sees in the lives of men and marriages to these three factors:
His mentor Dr. Ken McGill, is one of the most respected sexual addiction therapists in the country.
Eleven years of digging deep and doing the hard work in his own resurrection out of a 23-year addiction.
The heart-focused task model he has developed takes each man on “The Jesus Path” to sexual purity.
How long has Blaine been free from sexual addiction?
Blaine is grateful to be in his tenth year of freedom from pornography and sexual vice. He has had no relapse of any kind during this time. That said, he understands that deep humility, healthy community, and keeping “oars in the water” are essentials to preserving this grace from God.
Why does Blaine call his work coaching, rather than counseling?
With a counselor, you are in for an appointment and then out the door. Which is fine. There is a place for good counseling.
But a coach is someone who is on the field and in the trenches with you. They carefully watch how you are progressing, providing guidance and technique along the way for a successful outcome. This program allows you anytime access to Blaine during your work together.
Do I have to tell my wife about my struggle?
Blaine believes disclosure at some point to your spouse is an important step in finding freedom. However, the how, when and where are critical. Blaine will help you understand and discern this process, but ultimately this decision is up to you.
Does Blaine coach teens and young adults?
Yes. At least a third of his clients are in their teens and twenties. The average male discovers pornography for the first time at age eleven. So many of the guys Blaine works with in their twenties have more than a ten-year addiction they bring to the table.
Does Blaine’s coaching truly work?
Blaine has seen many of his clients completely delivered from pornography and sexual compulsion in the first two months of their work together. He has endless testimonies of men who have been set free. But let’s be clear: Blaine asks each client for a full-on commitment to putting his training into practice in his life. If you fully commit to these practices, you will put unwanted sexual behavior in the past.
What if I make this investment and it doesn’t work for me?
Your payment will be completely refunded. Period.
Do I have to pay the coaching fee right away?
No. A $500 down payment is made at the time of booking and the remainder of your investemnt can be made a couple days befor you travel to Tulsa.
What clients are saying.
“Blaine doesn’t play around. He’s a true coach. In your face when you need it… and your greatest fan each time you take new ground!”
— ES, Richmond, VA
“Blaine, I just had to let you know how absolutely incredible my coaching day with you was. I’ve just had the best two weeks of my life in years! You answered questions for me that I have been asking others for a decade. Thank you so much for being used by the Lord to resurrect a life I didn’t believe was possible!”
— JJ, Lancaster, PA
“I’m in my second year of complete freedom since inviting Blaine to coach me out of a lifetime porn addiction. Greatest investment I ever made!”
— DW, San Diego, CA
“Blaine is a champion for men all over the world, who long for freedom, and desperately need a picture of hope to look at.”
— KB, Detroit, MI
“I had tried everything to get porn out of my life. Snapping wrist bands. Bounced eyes. Internet filters. Blaine’s Katharos training changed everything for me!”
— TR, Miami, FL
“My wife was ready to leave me. I had failed again and again. It was do or die for me and one year later, here I am. Married. Happy. And free! Thank you Blaine!”
— OH, Dallas, TX
Katharos took me deep. When you discover it’s not about trying to “white-knuckle” your way to freedom, it is absolutely liberating!”
— NW, Philadelphia, PA
“I did my research. Programming similar to Blaine’s, cost multiplied thousands of dollars. I would have paid twice as much for all that Blaine poured into me.”
— BG, Vancouver, Canada